if someone asked you who you are, really what would you say
there is your body but that is for most people not the main part of who you are
so the main part of you is your mind most people would say
so which part of your mind is the thing that defines you for those you mix and live with, most people would say, it must be your personality...
...another one of those terms which repel definition...
...but personality would have to encompass the combination of your general ability to maintain a peaceful mood , ... ...whether the mood is good or bad ability at interacting with others knowledge of and interest in others knowledge of and interest in the world balance of self interest vs altruism sense of humor
understanding of the way the mind works
the last is a rare item most people with nice personalities manage without the last component, because they discover what works by trial and error,... empirically
all these characteristics depend on one prime ability this is the ability to maintain regulation of emotions without this we have turbulent moods poor relationships poor interest in others and the world poor balance of self interest and altruism poor sense of humor
regulation of emotions mostly happens by way of learned example and empiricism: finding out what works by trial and error
the alternative way is to discover what is the nature of emotion and to use this as a guide this is very rare